Are you going to be making New Year’s resolutions this year? Everyone makes resolutions like “I’m going to lose 10 pounds by Valentine’s Day,” or “I’m going to quit smoking this year,” or “I’m going to do more reading instead of watching TV,” etc. I could go on, but the idea here is, “Resolutions don’t matter because people never keep them.” If resolutions are not kept, why are they made?
That’s a good question! My opinion on New Year’s Resolutions is they are a tradition. Every year since I was a child, I remember everyone I knew made resolutions on New Year’s Eve in preparation for the New Year. Apparently, 75 percent of all resolutions made are broken. Can you believe that? I’m sure it is true.
Every year since I was about 10 years old I made New Year’s resolutions. One year, when I was 15, I decided to make the resolution (at the beginning of the school year and at New Years) to have a boyfriend. I went to a Catholic high school and wore a green plaid pleated skirt, a white shirt, and a black blazer uniform. At 15, I was as round as I was tall. None of the boys in my class or any of the other classes liked me, but I didn’t lose hope. I was so determined to have a boyfriend that year that I started exercising and dieting. In October, I turned 16. Still no boyfriend. I lost 10 pounds and my little round belly. My girl friends were very happy I had lost weight. They thought for sure I would have a boyfriend in a few months. Christmas came and went. Valentines Day came and went. By the time school was out for the summer, I still didn’t have a boyfriend. Actually, when I finally got a boyfriend, I was 18 years old and in nursing school. So much for that year’s resolution.
The media hype acclaiming the new year encourages people to change something about themselves to make life better. There are so many people trying to lose weight, stop smoking, do more exercise, be less lonely, start new businesses, etc. Those who usually make a resolution to change themselves or their lives may start out strong, but after a few weeks they lose steam and quit. For those folks trying to change their image or quit smoking, they work hard at it for awhile, but because our society is used to having what we want right away, when we don’t lose weight or we can’t quit smoking we quit trying. There is no willpower anywhere or our resolutions are not serious.
I’ve come to realize that New Year’s resolutions are a game. When we are with friends, we make resolutions to keep up with them. When we are alone, we have no intention of keeping resolutions. If everyone who made a resolution was accountable to someone other than a family member or co-worker, I bet more people would keep their resolutions. That is the reason I don’t make resolutions any more at New Years or at any other time. Saying a resolution out loud is tantamount to being accountable and I would have to go through with it.
You will have to do what you think is best when it comes to New Year’s resolutions. If you feel like you can go through with it, go ahead and make as many resolutions as you can keep.



